What He needs is Your Forgiveness, not Divorce!

Written by Nelpee.                        

I know, I know, dear lady. You just don’t like the sound of this title.

 ‘Forgive?’  ‘Forgive that …?’ (I have no doubt you have a creative collection of descriptions for him).  We’ll get into it in a little bit, but first may I bid you welcome to our online hang out. Welcome to this light-hearted, feel-good blog where all we will be doing is chatting, debating and laughing...

 I’m not alone here, Zee is with me. She’s my multi-talented, sharp-mouthed, feministically-brilliant friend and sparring partner who, I'm sure you'll be meeting shortly. 
                                               

So… back to the beginning. I heard the news about American rapper, 50 Cent getting into trouble for getting physical with his baby mama because she cheated on him—at least he thinks she did—and I wondered ‘who really are the worst cheats? Is it us, men, or them, women? ’ I know it is traditionally believed we (men) do more exploits in that department, but is that really the fact? I think not.

First of all, according to a recent research by the Archives of Sexual Behavior, women are just about as guilty of straying as men. Researchers had 918 men and women fill out an online questionnaire on whether or not they had cheated on their partners and why they did it. The results showed that 19 percent of women admitted to straying outside their relationship—that’s a five percent jump from the National Science Foundation’s General Social Survey in 2010. As for men, 23 percent of them reported cheating, up four percent since 2010. So, according to this research there’s only a four percent difference between the cheating statistics of men and women.
                           

That’s that for research and facts, how about observation and experience, these should count for something, shouldn’t they? Well, in my experience and by my observation, or better still enquiry, I've discovered that women not only fantasize about, they often seriously consider running out on their partners as much as men do, if not more! (Zee, you hear that?). And if you think I’m condemning innocent women just for ‘thinking’ thoughts, you better think again. Look at the stats above, more women are cheating now than three years ago. More women are probably cheating this week than five months ago. That doesn't shock me; it only tells me that more women are acting out their thoughts and fantasies these days than days of yore!

This brings me to my headache. So your man has cheated on you, and you are angry, at once murderous and suicidal, as well as devastated. That’s totally in order. We feel the same way when you guys cheat on us too (ask 50 Cent and a million other guys), but does what we have really have to end because of a moment or a couple moments of irresponsibility and lust on my part? (This should not be taken as me trying to belittle the gravity of infidelity, trust me, I’m not). All those many months, years of companionship, friendship, sacrifice, intimacy and growing together all flung away just like that? It hurts.

 Whatever happened to good old forgiveness. You just want to up and leave, and to hell with our love, our marriage, our life, just like that? It really hurts. As a matter of fact it hurts so much I can find neither the emotional strength nor the words to continue writing this.

I hand it over to you .Your comments and views are very welcome.  For now, it’s Ciaooooow! That’s ‘goodbye’ in Italese,  a blend of Italian and Japanese! A language only I know. (winks).